Sunday, 18 May 2014

Different

Yeah... I know I was different since I was very much younger, I played around with boys more, it's always been harder for me to look at girls in the eyes, especially if they are cute, it makes me nervous,
And that was when I was about 10 years old. I felt like an oddball, so I keep to myself a lot, because I did not want anyone to find out what I was like.
In secondary school, I started developing a crush for a classmate, but I was so much in denial that I told myself I wanted to be her best friend, that she's a really nice person, when in fact, I just wanted to hear her voice and see her face, somehow, we drifted apart as we went to different electives, no longer talking as often, I then found out that she has a boyfriend already,  nearly heartbroken.
Until a couple of years ago, I was hanging out with my old classmate, that she told me she'd suspected that I liked that girl all along, and that she later had a few girlfriends as well. Well, being the coward I usually am, I denied.
It wasn't until Polytechnic that I met my first girlfriend, that the feelings had became so stronger I could no longer lie to myself. I thought of myself to be bi. We were merely together for 3 months, mainly splitted due to personality issue, and also because I wanted to be more musculine and not the femme in the relationship. But this relationship was my first step towards accepting myself for being myself.
Today, I only have had 2 girlfriends so far, but I know, I could never be with a guy anymore, they just dont make my heart race. I'm not a man-hater, I have lots of great guy friends, but I just want to hold the soft body of another girl.

Well, I can only say, dont be in a hurry to jump to conclusion,  or conform to social standards, just keep an open eye and open mind,  look around, when you figure it out, you just do.

Tuesday, 6 May 2014

S.E.E

I've learnt these long ago, while I was still in the Food & Beverage Service Line. 
SMILE
ENTHUSIASM
EYE CONTACT

Smile. 
The best way to shorten the distance between two hearts is a truthful smile. 
Being caught up in your own immediate reality, really caused you to neglect your own expression. 
We often forget to smile, simply because there are just too much on our mind. 
However, precisely the reason why it is so important to do what most people forget to do, a sincere smile breaks the ice between 2 strangers. 

Enthusiasm
Most of the time, enthusiasm is being underrated. It is so fundamental that we failed to see the importance of it. It's in everything that we do. Our actions and our body language, our tone when we speaks, it helps to emphasize and convey clearly our message to the other party. It also gives us a sense of security as it helps to maintain our passion towards the things we do. 

Eye Contact
Eye Contact shows others what kind of person we are, it denotes our sincerity and confidence when we speak. Someone who keeps avoiding eye contact during a conversation, almost always give the impression of being secretive and shifty, as though there's something up their sleeves, when in fact, it could just be that this person is nervous around the company, or the ongoing topics. And honestly, it takes practice to be able to look at everyone and anyone in the eyes during a conversation, because, I believe, no matter how outspoken you are, there are bound to be someone who intimidates you, and you'll get cold feet if you were to carry out a normal conversation with this person.